ImTheCaptain
I disagree with you
i only hold the door if the person is far enough away that it's socially awkward and makes them hurry up
Thinking holding a guy holding a door open for a lady is a sexual advance is about the woman not be brought up with the proper manners or having something bad happen to them in the past. It's common courtesy and decency to hold a door open for a lady or anyone else for that matter.
I don't think anyone was suggesting that holding the door for someone would/could be considered a sexual advance. But in certain contexts holding the door open for someone might make that person uncomfortable for a variety of reasons. The appropriate response to finding out that a seemingly innocuous action makes someone else uncomfortable is to accept that and not do it again, not blame the uncomfortable person's upbringing or past.
My New Jersey raised Alabama transplanted grad student did. She thought guys were just doing it as a way to check her out, or it was a condescending action as if to say 'let me hold this heavy door for you, little girl.' She has since accepted that it is simply a cultural difference between Alabama and New Jersey.
My New Jersey raised Alabama transplanted grad student did. She thought guys were just doing it as a way to check her out, or it was a condescending action as if to say 'let me hold this heavy door for you, little girl.' She has since accepted that it is simply a cultural difference between Alabama and New Jersey.
it's most definitely a Southern thing. I rarely experience it when I go up north (was about 50/50 people holding it for me/others when I lived in DC, but I always did). hell, my mother-in-law will stop in front of a door and wait for a male to open it. my colleagues in Finland don't do it at all, and no one thanks you when I do hold it open for them.
But what about just holding a door open when you see someone behind you, regardless of their gender?
So this is how she realized it was actually a cultural thing. She noticed that a lot of dudes don’t discriminate who they hold the door for and came to conclude it was just the way things are done down here.
But what about just holding a door open when you see someone behind you, regardless of their gender?
But what about just holding a door open when you see someone behind you, regardless of their gender?