That summer, Buttigieg became an adopted member of a black family living in Hyde Park. He ate dinner with them, helped Ferguson’s son with his math homework and eventually gained enough trust from Goldie that she allowed him to walk her.
On the job, Buttigieg was interviewing black men who had been assaulted by police and forced into false confessions. He made the connection between that and the advice Ferguson’s husband told their son when he was grumpy one morning: Start the day with gratitude that you are alive.
Ferguson said she told him about her childhood, growing up in a palatial home in Oklahoma, where black travelers stayed overnight because there were no hotels around serving them. She talked about her father spending nights on the front porch with a shotgun in hand; outsiders were throwing rocks at the property after he registered African Americans to vote.
Before then, Buttigieg said he thought “racism was about these big epic clashes that you read about in school.” But Ferguson’s experience “helped me to understand what it’s like when these problems leap off the page,” he said.
Growing up, Buttigieg had related to African Americans through novels such as Ralph Ellison’s
“Invisible Man” and Toni Morrison’s
“The Bluest Eye,” a seminal work that explored the inner-tumult of a black girl who wanted white features in a world that didn’t appreciate her beauty. Buttigieg saw himself in Pecola Breedlove, the book’s main character. As the son of a Maltese immigrant with a funny name and a young man struggling with his sexual orientation, he, too, felt like an outsider.
“I was trying to figure out how to conform to the environment around me because I was always feeling a little different, a little off from the norm,” said Buttigieg, who publicly announced he was gay in 2015. “Maybe just because I was from a family that was a little different, maybe because I was beginning to understand that I was different.”
Ferguson recalled that telling Buttigieg he was privileged was “quite disturbing for him.” It was hard for him to reconcile the feelings of being an outsider that he had of himself with the reality that he might be receiving benefits that others might not.
“He got very emotional,” recalled Ferguson, who is supporting his presidential bid.
“Don’t get emotional,” she told him. “Do something about it. And he did.”