i drove back to olympia clearheaded, temporarily
this spooling out repetitive decades-long song string,
this river coursing through my life,
these wild swipes at meaning
and now i circle back to look into the spring
so, i need some boards wisdom
my daughter's best friend apparently has an...issue...with self pleasure. Her parents are pretty open about it, she'll openly start masturbating and usually (they say) they'll tell her to at least go to her room to do it in private. Wife and I sort of laughed it off or whatever but the other night were at their house for dinner with another woman and her daughter (this is our pod) and the girls were upstairs playing. Long story short my wife and then later I had reason to run up to break up a disagreement or whatever and both times said Girl was just on the ground (writhing in my wife's parlance) in self pleasure, while the other two girls were playing with toys, basically ignoring it.
Now my wife is sort of paranoid about letting our daughter play over there on playdates, at least if they're going to be be quasi left to their own devices in her room. My daughter does not do this and doesn't talk about it or ask questions; also said girl does not do it when they're at our house for playdates.
I'm sort of ambivalent about the whole thing but wife wants to restrict playdates to our house/supervision and possibly bring it up with the Other Parents. the girls in question are all 5
and you don't think playdates should be restricted or are you in agreement?
so, i need some boards wisdom
my daughter's best friend apparently has an...issue...with self pleasure. Her parents are pretty open about it, she'll openly start masturbating and usually (they say) they'll tell her to at least go to her room to do it in private. Wife and I sort of laughed it off or whatever but the other night were at their house for dinner with another woman and her daughter (this is our pod) and the girls were upstairs playing. Long story short my wife and then later I had reason to run up to break up a disagreement or whatever and both times said Girl was just on the ground (writhing in my wife's parlance) in self pleasure, while the other two girls were playing with toys, basically ignoring it.
Now my wife is sort of paranoid about letting our daughter play over there on playdates, at least if they're going to be be quasi left to their own devices in her room. My daughter does not do this and doesn't talk about it or ask questions; also said girl does not do it when they're at our house for playdates.
I'm sort of ambivalent about the whole thing but wife wants to restrict playdates to our house/supervision and possibly bring it up with the Other Parents. the girls in question are all 5
What. The. Fuck.
Nah, they're delicious. I just have stupid genetics and borderline high cholesterol even with exercise and diet and I don't wanna be on lipitor at forty, so I very, very rarely eat red meat.
We've been house hunting lately because we're still in the first house we bought in 2006 and we're ready for something nicer. We're just outside of Charlotte and our house is appraising for about 80K more than what we bought it for, and a realtor friend was saying we'll get more than that. Houses aren't staying on the market very long at all, and our neighbor two doors down just sold his without ever putting up a for sale sign. Another house that just came on the market last week in Huntersville that checked a bunch of boxes for us was under contract two days later.
We've been out of the real estate game for so long that we couldn't believe how apparently now there's this concept of a buyer's letter, where you plead your case to a seller that they'll sell to you instead of someone else. It's like writing a cover letter or applying to a university.
so, i need some boards wisdom
my daughter's best friend apparently has an...issue...with self pleasure. Her parents are pretty open about it, she'll openly start masturbating and usually (they say) they'll tell her to at least go to her room to do it in private. Wife and I sort of laughed it off or whatever but the other night were at their house for dinner with another woman and her daughter (this is our pod) and the girls were upstairs playing. Long story short my wife and then later I had reason to run up to break up a disagreement or whatever and both times said Girl was just on the ground (writhing in my wife's parlance) in self pleasure, while the other two girls were playing with toys, basically ignoring it.
Now my wife is sort of paranoid about letting our daughter play over there on playdates, at least if they're going to be be quasi left to their own devices in her room. My daughter does not do this and doesn't talk about it or ask questions; also said girl does not do it when they're at our house for playdates.
I'm sort of ambivalent about the whole thing but wife wants to restrict playdates to our house/supervision and possibly bring it up with the Other Parents. the girls in question are all 5
That's a tough spot. I've heard that kids that young who experiment with pleasuring themselves have oftentimes been sexually abused in some capacity.
I don't have kids, so my advice obviously comes with a grain of salt, but kids be kids sometimes. Esp. if you're pretty sure this isn't the result of some past trauma (good home, good parents, etc.). I'd be more concerned if that was the case, I think.
Seems more disruptive to disrupt/hover over a best-friend-relationship, imo.
Also probably important to try and view masturbation through the lens of a 5 year old and not a 30+ year old as you think through this. They possess none of the context you might automatically rely on to explain it.
View masturbation through the lens of a 5 year old? Am I not picking up on the sarcasm here....?
I'm good on that.