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I have a pretty short list of cities that I would consider moving to. They are as follows.
 
yeah you can't live in the city and have your house overrun with snakes
 
live shot of mako's living room:

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How is everyone feeling after yesterday’s chat thread. Remember please share before starting to post again, Palma thank you for sharing your hate.
 
i am feeling a little down today. my wife and her best friend are having some issues and it makes me sad. i am a peacemaker (enneagram 9) and don't like conflict, but trying to remember that their issues aren't mine and I need to respect their boundaries and not force a false resolution just because i'm not happy. It's not my fight.

thanks for asking
 
DeacDiggler said:
i am feeling a little down today. my wife and her best friend are having some issues and it makes me sad. i am a peacemaker (enneagram 9) and don't like conflict, but trying to remember that their issues aren't mine and I need to respect their boundaries and not force a false resolution just because i'm not happy. It's not my fight.

thanks for asking
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I am a big problem solver and I struggle a lot when my wife is venting about stuff. I just want to give advice to help her fix her problem, but that is not what she is looking for. Been hard to suppress that instinct.
 
BeachBumDeac said:
I am a big problem solver and I struggle a lot when my wife is venting about stuff. I just want to give advice to help her fix her problem, but that is not what she is looking for. Been hard to suppress that instinct.
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Yeah it took me a decade to realize I just needed to shut up and listen, even though the answer to my wife’s problems seem obvious to me
 
DeacDiggler said:
i am feeling a little down today. my wife and her best friend are having some issues and it makes me sad. i am a peacemaker (enneagram 9) and don't like conflict, but trying to remember that their issues aren't mine and I need to respect their boundaries and not force a false resolution just because i'm not happy. It's not my fight.

thanks for asking
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Pics ?
 
 
DeaconCav06 said:
Richmond is definitely on a list of cities I would consider moving to. I have family and friends there and enjoy the vibe there.

Charlotte
Richmond
Winston
Charlottesville
Jacksonville

I know those places well enough that I think they’d be a good fit. This is obviously a much different list than I had before 2 kids.
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Living with a wife who moves around the world every couple years, we have discussed this and the only major US cities we would do (other than Dallas) are: Denver, Boston, Honolulu, Charleston, Miami, Charlotte
 
Booked the flights for our annual (except for last winter) trip out to Montana to visit my parents in January. Between everyone traveling now and jacking up prices and now having to buy a ticket for our 3 year old WOOF.
 
BeachBumDeac said:
I am a big problem solver and I struggle a lot when my wife is venting about stuff. I just want to give advice to help her fix her problem, but that is not what she is looking for. Been hard to suppress that instinct.
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listening responses fall on a continuum from more reflective/less directive --> less reflective/more directive

silent listening --> questioning --> paraphrasing --> empathizing --> supporting --> analyzing --> evaluating --> advising
 
Yeah I live on the right side of that continuum.
 
Wife is currently on a kick where she's concerned that we don't have a lot in common and she's worried about what will happen when our kids move out. Keep in mind our youngest is 3.

She's expressed this for years... Even before we had kids.

She doesn't understand that I don't need (or want) someone that likes the exact same things I do.

The catalyst for her bringing it up this time was me watching the Wake Forest basketball game last night instead of sitting with her on the couch to watch something else. She said that she's sorry that she doesn't want to watch basketball with me. I was like, "I have zero desire for you to watch those games with me." She just assumes that we should want to do everything together. While I enjoy her company immensely, I don't need it 24/7.
 
My wife went to Wake and I don't want her to watch Wake games with me.
 
Jacksonville, eh? I’d move to Charlotte before I ever considered Jacksonville. Charlotte!
 
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