So...thanks to all for recommendations. We had a great weekend in Asheville (despite the bitter cold and wind on Sunday).
If anyone is visiting from out of town and wants something different than a downtown hotel, I highly recommend our B&B - Applewood Manor in Historic Montford. If it had been nicer out we certainly could've walked downtown easily. With the cold we ended up either driving (pretty cheap parking in the garages) or taking an Uber (for $6-7), so it worked fine for us. Nice room, excellent 3 course breakfasts, and social hour every evening with wine, cheese, etc included.
Friday for dinner we went to Nine Mile since we'd read good things and it was the closest place to us. We had to wait maybe 30 min or so for a table (place is small and was packed). It was ok, but neither of us were particularly wowed, and ended up taking home two huge portions of pasta that we didn't even end up eating. Green curry hummus was good, as were the salad dressings, but entrees were just ok.
Saturday instead of lunch we did the Eating Asheville High Roller food tour. This was a lot of fun, great food and drinks, and I think a pretty good value for everything we got.
-Battery Park Book Exchange - we met and started here with a glass of sparkling wine, local pimento cheese on toast, and local trout spread on toast.
-Zambra - we had sangria and a pork spring roll (lots of folks recommended we eat here and the menu looked good...next time it'll be on our list)
-Strada - red wine with a small serving of orichette with white wine sauce and prosciutto. The pasta dish was excellent. Their Sunday and Monday family meal sounds like a fun thing to try, and our guide said they had a good brunch. And they were talking up Social Lounge a lot.
-Sovereign Remedies - a cocktail with some combo of congnac, lemon, rose, and some herbal aphrodisiac plus a pimento cheese filled gougeres which were pretty awesome
-Bomba - champagne and an arepa with cabbage and jalapeno. The arepa was awesome (probably one of our favorite bites). And our guide said Bomba was his favorite breakfast spot in the city.
-Seven Sows - no alcohol (boo) but we had the caramel glazed pork belly which was great
Nightbell - last stop on the tour and maybe the best? Atlantico cocktail (rum, cointreau, porto, bitters, and lemon), the "deviled egg" and liquid apple pie. The egg presentation was very cool with a corn sabayon and smoked trout served in an egg shell, and the apple pie petit four was just a very unique bite. While there we found out they'd had a few cancellations for that evening so we swooped in to get a late dinner reservation.
We didn't eat a lot when we went back to Nightbell for dinner, but all of it was excellent - chicken wings, philly cheese steak, and Canadian waffle (duck confit, foie gras poutine, and cheddar mousse). Yum.
After dinner ended up wandering into Off the Wagon. It's definitely cheesy and caters to tourists and groups/parties, but we had a good time (after having been drinking since 2pm, maybe anything would've been a good time?).
Brunch at Tupelo Honey South (yay parking and reservations) was good, but I was a bit hungover, so didn't fully appreciate it. Biscuits with blueberry jam were stellar. My sandwich had like fried green tomatoes, bacon, ham, havarti, pimento cheese, and caramelized onions. Ridiculous.
We had lunch at Chai Pani and this might've been our favorite meal of the trip. Super unique, delicious, and pretty cheap. I HIGHLY recommend this. We had Bhel Puri, Samosa Chaat, Bombay Chili Cheese Fries, and the special chaat of the day. You can order 1/2 portions of most of the chaats, which lets you try even more things. I would love to have some place like this in DC. I love traditional Indian food, but this was just a cool place.
Dinner at Limones was of course good. We had the lobster nachos, pork tenderloin al pastor, and beef and shrimp burrito. The pork was ridiculously tender and flavorful (and apparently we got the last portion of the night before it was sold out). Churros with Mexican hot chocolate and caramel for dessert.