I think it's hugely important to take care of yourself and maintain a sense of self that's independent of the kids...Diggler spells some of that out in his post. That said, I personally try not to miss kid stuff because you never know when it's going to be the last time they do that 'thing' and I know that's true for a lot of things in life but it really hits me when I think about it in context of the kids. For example, my oldest (almost 7) asks me to tell her stories all the fucking time and a lot of times I don't want to, but one day it will be the last time she asks for a story and I don't want to say 'no' in that moment. I think of the soccer games and other stuff in the same context.