lbE08
Stegosaurus are bush league
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Question for you. Should the guy have given you a complement instead? If so, what would have been appropriate? A simple "you look very nice" perhaps? Or should he have just kept his mouth shut?
He said it after I had gotten out of the elevator, and thought he was just enjoying some 'locker room talk' out of earshot.
Honestly, I don't think it's appropriate - ever - for a male coworker to compliment me or make any comment on my appearance. I think they could say "you have nice clothes, do you have a suggestion for where I could buy something for my wife?" and talk about clothing as an object, but in general the workplace is not a place where someone should be objectifying YOU for how you look. I don't want to be distracted by worrying whether or not I'm putting out 'vibes' to people or that they're just looking at me rather than listening to the sweet data analysis coming out of my mouth.
A guy in general, not at work? A simple, "You look nice today - I like your ____ (hair, scarf, shoes)." Fine. That doesn't bother me. Just dont make pervy faces or gestures when you say it.
However, I am not all women in feeling that way, and some women may think it's just straight-up not your place to tell them your thoughts, because they didn't dress for you anyway. My personal opinion as a person is that if you think someone looks nice and you notice it, you can tastefully/reasonably tell them without coming across as a weirdo.
I hear you but there are also a lot of women who flat our do not give a hoot that a dude likes her skirt and/or compliments it.
He wasn't talking about my skirt. He was talking about me IN my skirt, most likely accompanied by this face, given his tone of voice: :naughty:
Dude..Where are these women? Seriously. Where the fuck are these feminists that seem to be so prevalent. You were a good person and held a door open for someone. What has happened in these women's lives that have made them so callous towards men who aren't posing a threat? I don't see it at work. I don't see it in my family. I don't see it in public. I don't see it when I leave W-S and go to big cities. I hear about it on these boards and I see it on MSM.
LBE - would you agree that #'s example could be a woman going a bit overboard?
Yes, I agree that #'s example could be a woman going overboard.
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