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Is it worth having kids?

wakegrrl said:
Oh, I bet not. Better watch out...payback's a bitch on those sorts of things. :plos:
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It's not really that loud and was not the most annoying thing they got this year. My folks got them some kind of kitchen/refrigerator toy that plays songs when you do certain things. It's way more annoying listening to the same song 50 times than playing drums.
 
Deacon92 said:
Is seeing them trying to copy you.

But then you have the duty of trying to explain how you were when you were their age. I cant imagine how to explain going to walnut cove to the ingles to cruise the parking lot because it was better than the parking lot of food lion in mayodan.
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Ok who are you? We use to do this all the time and we would hang in the parking lot, but I am from WC. We started Stratford when it was popular, then Mt Airy, then High Point, then I quit doing it when Elkin got popular.
 
We cannot get my little girl to talk or even try to potty train and she just turned 2 Dec 1. My oldest my 4yo son was talking, pretty much potty trained, knew his alphabet, and how to count by two so I am slightly concerned with her.
 
jamesda3 said:
We cannot get my little girl to talk or even try to potty train and she just turned 2 Dec 1. My oldest my 4yo son was talking, pretty much potty trained, knew his alphabet, and how to count by two so I am slightly concerned with her.
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Is she hitting her other developmental milestones? I know different kids are ready to potty train at different times, and our son talked late but he was way early on most of his gross motor milestones (walked at 10 months, etc.). If her brother talks a lot, as mentioned earlier, that may have something to do with it as well.
 
Every kid is different. Our oldest talked early but didn't walk until 2.5 years old and never crawled. We were told she might never walk but everything is fine. Still, address your concerns with the pediatrician and get a hearing test.
 
My oldest had problems with number two right up to pre-K and she is doing great now. Had us worried sick but they always figure it out when they are ready.
 
a friend's kid basically didn't talk at all, and then one day just busted out in complete sentences. :shrug:
 
So by page 14 I think we have come to a resounding and unanimous conclusion.
 
Rare agreement for these boards. Kids and Cam Newton. That's about it.

james, your daughter may just not have anything to say. She may be a quiet kid.
 
PhDeac said:
Rare agreement for these boards. Kids and Cam Newton. That's about it.

james, your daughter may just not have anything to say. She may be a quiet kid.
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Oh, I thought everyone was saying no, these little fuckers can't figure out how to poop for like four years?
 
after the disasterous vomiting/sleeping issues we've had the last 2 nights, i'm pretty sure i'm ready to change my vote.
 
palmab03 said:
Oh, I thought everyone was saying no, these little fuckers can't figure out how to poop for like four years?
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They probably have it all figured out, but why bother using the toilet? I mean, you'd be playing and have to stop to go poop, it's easier to keep playing and have someone clean it up later.
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In ye olde days, you had kids to help with the farm work.

Now, you have kids to play golf with the rest of your life.

Having kids is awesome:

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lbE08 said:
a friend's kid basically didn't talk at all, and then one day just busted out in complete sentences. :shrug:
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yeah my brother was deaf as a baby (they put tubes in his ears and now he can hear just fine) so he didn't talk until really late. once they fixed the hearing thing, he developed completely normally. being behind developmentally as a toddler isn't the end of the world. they can catch up.
 
I always wondered how parents decide to space out their kids? 2 years, 4 years, completely random, oops baby.

Also, how old is too old to have kids? Some of my friend's parents are like 10-15 years older than mine and I always found sort of weird that they were retired before my parents even thought about retiring. My parents had me in their early 30s.
 
TravelingDeacon said:
I always wondered how parents decide to space out their kids? 2 years, 4 years, completely random, oops baby.

Also, how old is too old to have kids? Some of my friend's parents are like 10-15 years older than mine and I always found sort of weird that they were retired before my parents even thought about retiring. My parents had me in their early 30s.
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When I was growing up, it seemed like most kids were 2/3 years separated.

And maybe this is just a smallsamplesize theory of the people I know, but a lot of people now are waiting til they are early 30s to start spitting out kids and are doing it fast - like every 12/18 months. I have 3 friends who have multiple kids that are 12 months apart. My brother had 3 girls with 4 1/2 years. Seems like a lot, but when I talk to them they feel like it is getting through the tough part early. To me, 3 kids in college at the same time sounds like a nightmare scenario.
 
TravelingDeacon said:
I always wondered how parents decide to space out their kids? 2 years, 4 years, completely random, oops baby.
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For us, we wanted them to be close so they could grow up together. Our first two were born exactly 20 months apart. We're trying to adopt now and hoping to have a newborn that is within 24 months of when our daughter was born, but that's not something we have a lot of control over.

TravelingDeacon said:
Also, how old is too old to have kids? Some of my friend's parents are like 10-15 years older than mine and I always found sort of weird that they were retired before my parents even thought about retiring. My parents had me in their early 30s.
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Your parents were early 30's and you had friends with parents 15 years older? So your friends' parents were in their late 40's when they had kids? Wow.

Some of it depends on where you grew up. I have "young" parents (they had me in their mid 20's) and young grandparents (in their mid 70's), but I grew up in a rural area and I'm the first in my line to go to college. My grandmother was married as a high school senior when my grandfather came home for a weekend from his posting in the military. She finished out the year as valedictorian and then moved to TX to be with him a few days later. My parents knew each other in high school and were married at 20. I had my first kid at 28, so I'll be "relatively" young compared to a lot of the parents of my kids' friends now that its becoming more typical to have kids well into your mid/late 30's.

I, personally, look forward to being a younger father to my kids, as I have a lot of good memories of being able to play ball and hang out with my dad that many of my friends with older parents don't have. I also look forward to being a younger grandfather in retirement, so my hope is that my kids won't necessarily wait a long time to start a family either. The move towards having kids later and later is, unfortunately I think, taking away some of the influence of older and wiser generations. I'm very thankful to have not only known, but to have known for many years of my life, all of my grandparents, and 5 of my great-grandparents. To this day, 3 of my grandparents are still alive and kicking and a part of my childrens' lives.
 
the AAP recommends a spacing of 3 years (not sure why). Matt's parent's are 15 years older than mine because my folks had me in their early 20s and his parents were in their early 30s and he's older than I am. I had my great grandparents in my life until my late teens and one until my mid 20s. I am grateful my kids also have great grandparents but also see how great it is that Matt's parents are retired and therefore can be more involved in E's life immediately. I didn't want to be an "old mom" because I had young parents and felt like it was great especially since they are still young but I soon saw that 30 isn't old.

Part of me would have more kids right away but we'll probably wait. I've always heard that #1 gets the benefit of alone focused time with the parents while the future kids get the benefit of having better, experienced parents.
 
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