Shot in the dark here, and not really sure why I wanted to post this, but I think mainly just to get out some thoughts/emotions.
I have a really good friend that is incarcerated. He and I were roommates in college. We connected immediately over shared love of basketball and movies. We partied together pretty hard. I have not seen him in probably 15+ years (he lived abroad for much of his time post college), but we had always stayed in touch via social media or text.
We used to chat daily. We'd talk about the NBA, WWE, UFC, movies. We'd talk about our struggles with addiction, depression. We'd talk about sobriety, working out, walking, eating healthy, and other steps we were taking to improve our health. He would go silent for days-week at a time, and then apologize that bouts of depression had gotten the best of him.
Over a year ago, the daily text messages went silent, and after a prolonged period, I started googling his name. I found out that he was arrested, found out where he was and navigated the many hoops it takes to sign up for a website by which I could try to contact him. He has since moved facilities twice, each time it comes with a period of not receiving any messages, googling his name (worried about possible suicide), calling facilities to find him, signing up for a new website through which I can send e-messages, and just hoping that the messages get to him. This most recent time the messages probably went silent in mid to late March. I found out he had been moved, called the jail to see if they have tablets or access to a messaging service. The jail said the best way to contact him was through mail. I sent him a letter on April 16th. Last week the letter was returned to me because I had not written his identification number on the envelope. Today, I am re-sending the letter.
Bluntly, I miss him. It is difficult to go from being able to speak to someone daily, to maybe corresponding 1-2 a month. I still Google his name quite often, to see if there is any news of his case or worse.
Though many of you know some of my political views on the topic of incarceration, I hope not to wade into that here. I wanted to share how difficult it has been for me, and to ask that you consider how difficult it is for my friend and others who are incarcerated.
If anyone else here happens to have had a similar experience, feel free to reach out via pm, or share. Thanks for reading. This was cathartic.
I have a really good friend that is incarcerated. He and I were roommates in college. We connected immediately over shared love of basketball and movies. We partied together pretty hard. I have not seen him in probably 15+ years (he lived abroad for much of his time post college), but we had always stayed in touch via social media or text.
We used to chat daily. We'd talk about the NBA, WWE, UFC, movies. We'd talk about our struggles with addiction, depression. We'd talk about sobriety, working out, walking, eating healthy, and other steps we were taking to improve our health. He would go silent for days-week at a time, and then apologize that bouts of depression had gotten the best of him.
Over a year ago, the daily text messages went silent, and after a prolonged period, I started googling his name. I found out that he was arrested, found out where he was and navigated the many hoops it takes to sign up for a website by which I could try to contact him. He has since moved facilities twice, each time it comes with a period of not receiving any messages, googling his name (worried about possible suicide), calling facilities to find him, signing up for a new website through which I can send e-messages, and just hoping that the messages get to him. This most recent time the messages probably went silent in mid to late March. I found out he had been moved, called the jail to see if they have tablets or access to a messaging service. The jail said the best way to contact him was through mail. I sent him a letter on April 16th. Last week the letter was returned to me because I had not written his identification number on the envelope. Today, I am re-sending the letter.
Bluntly, I miss him. It is difficult to go from being able to speak to someone daily, to maybe corresponding 1-2 a month. I still Google his name quite often, to see if there is any news of his case or worse.
Though many of you know some of my political views on the topic of incarceration, I hope not to wade into that here. I wanted to share how difficult it has been for me, and to ask that you consider how difficult it is for my friend and others who are incarcerated.
If anyone else here happens to have had a similar experience, feel free to reach out via pm, or share. Thanks for reading. This was cathartic.