You think she's reading this message board? Man I have some serious power.
You also have no idea what the actress' intentions were in coming out so publicly after the fact. Neither do I. Is it possible this press will help her career? I'd say quite probable. Did that factor into her decision to go public the way she did? Who knows? Maybe she just felt so upset and moved to share her story and felt that GHWB should be held accountable for his actions by millions.
Was he still wrong to have done it? Absolutely. Not being able to see both sides of the issue is shortsighted, in my opinion.
omg I'm actually laughing out loud at this post right now. You are incredible. This last sentence is gold.
If you honestly cannot see how YOUR reaction is part of the problem, and that this general attitude -regardless of whether or not someone reads this message board - is felt all the time or heard regularly by women who all have stories that they could share but choose not to...
New story. In college, someone was trying to pressure me into doing something I did not want to do. I was, thankfully, able to get myself out of that situation. I told three people, and the reactions were:
1. "Really? That doesn't sound like something he would do." (I just told you that he did. So you... what. Don't believe me?)
2. "What's the big deal? Nothing happened." ('Nothing' happened because I got away and left.)
3. "That was like, last year." (OK, and I'm trying to tell you NOW why I am not comfortable sharing a house with them.)
So I stopped saying anything. What was the point? I was tired of feeling like I had to somehow defend myself for daring to say anything out loud about this person's behaviors... and it's because of reactions like yours.
Women need to speak out. Men need to speak out. Women need men who believe them. Women need to hear men come down on other men for their bullshit. It sucks that you can get a group of women together and they can all go around and tell stories like this and almost laugh about them because we've all been there (it's perverse, really)... and then you ask how many of them spoke up about it, and everyone goes silent. Because what's the point if all that's going to happen from talking about it is that we get ridiculed or criticized or second-guessed or are assumed to be 'after something.'