When I was 12 or so, I'd set out on my bike and ride with friends from 10 in the morning until dinner. No check-ins, no cell phones. We'd ride to the pool, go play golf, head to the bike shop or soda shop in Reynolda Village, head to a friend's house to play basketball, catch snakes in the creek, get in trouble for biking the cross country trails at Wake, etc. The only rule was to call home if I was going to be later than 8. When I was a little older, we'd ride 8-10 miles out of town, all of the way out to Lewisville to see friends. I think we even rode out and had lunch at Ted's Kickin' Chicken once it opened. My wife did similar things as a girl in Charlotte, riding from neighborhood to neighborhood to see friends and staying gone all day long.
At 5, 3, and 1, I'm all about my kids getting hurt, eating dirt, finding their own way, but I still have a hard time imagining my kids having that sort of freedom in their early teens. It doesn't seem like I see kids wandering around all summer on their own the same way we did. Where I do see it, it's in poorer urban neighborhoods rather than in the "safety" of the suburbs. Is the world really a less safe place or are we just more aware of the dangers thanks to modern media? Honestly, I'm half tempted to buy some land with a little cabin so my kids have a place where they can just go, be, wander and explore. Before moving to Winston, we lived on 5 acres of creeks, woods, etc growing up. I'd spend all day building dams, catching crawdads, hiking through the woods, shooting at bad guys, etc...at the same age, my kids are limited to our fenced in 50x50 back yard.