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Our dad was the household engineer after we were born, and I quite frankly have very little idea how he managed twins until we were in kindergarten without going insane.
 
Our kid is also becoming a free range baby. Starting to climb on/over everything. Yesterday, he managed to turn a laundry basket over, climb on top of it, and use it as a stepstool to get on top of our coffee table and try to wreak havoc. Pretty ingenuitive for 9 months. However, with these "black diamond adventures", as my blue-skier wife calls them, he's started racking up quite the number of minor injuries. A bit tough for me to just "let him learn" and bonk his head on stuff from time to time.

Bonk is a fun word, tho.
 
tigerswood said:
Our kid is also becoming a free range baby. Starting to climb on/over everything. Yesterday, he managed to turn a laundry basket over, climb on top of it, and use it as a stepstool to get on top of our coffee table and try to wreak havoc. Pretty ingenuitive for 9 months. However, with these "black diamond adventures", as my blue-skier wife calls them, he's started racking up quite the number of minor injuries. A bit tough for me to just "let him learn" and bonk his head on stuff from time to time.

Bonk is a fun word, tho.
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yeah I often wonder how big of a thing CTE is for babies
 
wakegrrl said:
Is it possible that she has other things going on? PPD, layoff trauma, etc., that are affecting her ability to do those things?
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Yes. Very possible. I've encouraged her to see a therapist and have offered to go with her (I see one). She won't go.
 
Deacsfan27 said:
There are some TAEKS here regarding the household engineer, especially when there are kids under 5 involved.
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Seriously. I stayed home with a baby for 3 months as part of paternity leave years ago. Taking care of a baby is full time difficult. A 9 month old would be even worse than that. No time for anything during the day.
 
Deacfan2009 said:
TRUTH

That includes probably reckoning with your own when you see how easily your kid mirrors you. My kid was almost 100% the impetus for the introspection that led me to seek therapy and figure my shit out.
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oh yeah it's definitely some complicated feelings when you see your kid start to exhibit the behaviors you don't like in yourself. Lots of fun.
 
DeacDiggler said:
the best policy is to stuff your feelings down in real life and pretend they're not there, then bitch about them to imaginary friends on the internet
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Just shove it deep down inside until the lid comes off your drink in the car and you get angry enough to take a life.
 
I still liked staying at home w/ a baby for a few months (as part of paternity leave) a lot more than my real job + baby duties on top of and around that real job tbqh. It was tough but felt way more rewarding and also got to get out of the house a lot more going on walks and stuff.
 
I know this is obvious and we all know this, but once a baby starts crawling and walking they require basically 100% full attention at all times unless they are in a high chair eating or napping (if they will nap).

Throw in the lack of sleep that comes from that and it is enough to drive most sane people up the wall.
 
tigerswood said:
Yes. Very possible. I've encouraged her to see a therapist and have offered to go with her (I see one). She won't go.
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That's hard. Please keep encouraging her to do so so she can be the mom your kid deserves.

I was home with our kid when he hit free-range status. It's hard. Basically eyes/hands-on all the time, and when he napped, trying to catch up with everything else. And if you're not used to that life, it's harder almost.

I was laid off when we finalized our adoption, and it was hard for me to mourn the loss of my job, plus feel like I was supposed to be happy and fulfilled that I had the chance to stay home with the kid but really I knew I needed to work.
 
Deacsfan27 said:
I know this is obvious and we all know this, but once a baby starts crawling and walking they require basically 100% full attention at all times unless they are in a high chair eating or napping (if they will nap).

Throw in the lack of sleep that comes from that and it is enough to drive most sane people up the wall.
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Just gotta set up a little fenced in playpen area for 30 minutes here or there.

Note: crawling phase worse than walking imo, more worried about what they get into when they're already on the floor/limits where you can take em a lot more.
 
cookoutdeac said:
Just gotta set up a little fenced in playpen area for 30 minutes here or there.

Note: crawling phase worse than walking imo, more worried about what they get into when they're already on the floor/limits where you can take em a lot more.
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I'm grateful(?) that when I was at home during 2020 with my son he was immobile at that point so I could work all day with him laying or sitting around all day. I could not have imagined how I could've done it if he was crawling
 
Deacfreak07 said:
Just get one of those invisible fences like dogs use. They learn quick.
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I'm not joking, we honestly did set up a little playpen area so we could put the kiddo in there with toys and stuff for half an hour here or there to get cooking/etc done, and he also ended up using it to pull up/learn to stand a little faster than I think he might have otherwise too.

The pack'n'play served this purpose for a bit but it was just too small to encourage good movement/play.
 
Deacsfan27 said:
There are some TAEKS here regarding the household engineer, especially when there are kids under 5 involved.
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Yeah. We have 2.5 and 5 so that’s a full time gig outside of the 4 hours they’re “in school”. I’d much rather my wife be able to get to her workout class during that time than worry about household stuff.

This thread is the first time I’ve ever heard the term “household engineer”.
 
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