It's not who they were, it's what they became.
I don't even understand what point you are trying to make anymore. First, your outrage was that a 3* kid who has been here for 4 years and therefore should have essentially been the next Mike Webster is a failure due to either his own lack of work ethic or the coaching staff’s or some combination of the two because he has yet to start a game at center, ignoring of course his contributions elsewhere along the line.
Now you are arguing that “rating doesn’t equal destiny,” which is more to the point but in contrast to what you were outraged about it the first place.
I don’t think anyone would try to argue the fact that on the aggregate, higher rated recruits are generally more likely to find more success on the field than their lower rated counterparts. As we all know though, the ratings are an inexact science filled with biases and sometimes questionable motivations.
If a lower rated kid establishes himself as a better performer once the pads are on in practice, I don’t think that is any more symptomatic of some larger failure by anyone and everyone involved than it is of a success on that kid’s part. And further, the specific situation you were arguing was between two kids with nearly identical ratings. We’re not talking about a 5* recruit who, as a 5th year senior, loses his starting position to some upstart sleeper walk-on. A 5* kid is not even likely to be around for any senior year, whether it be a 4th or a 5th.
Both Barnes and Helms were projected to be contributors at the college level and that’s exactly what they are, with one of them showing promise and filling a need earlier in his career. To call this a failure is ridiculous and disingenuous.