Damn missed the hot NC city/town chat because I was writing college letters of recommendation for a few of my students #humblebrag #greatguy
That being said, I wanted Raleigh to be cool when we moved there 4 years ago, but man did it underwhelm. Maybe its because I was coming from Austin and my wife from NYC, but we could just never get into Raleighwood. The downtown area is pretty meh and none of the other neighborhoods are that cool. And North Hills which we lived near, is a real suck. Durham was way more dope.
Rankings of Top 12 populated NC cities (Asheville is 12th)
1. Asheville - not for everyone, but the best for a lot of categories, people are chill
2. Durham - sneaky cool, bars/restaurant scene is great, downtown is walkable and compact
3. Winston - duh
4. Charlotte - higher than when I lived there, less cookie cutter and more diverse - downtown still sucks though and the rust belt transplants and their sports teams are woof
5. Raleigh - see above
6. Wilmington - beaches are cool but the city itself is underwhelming
7. Greenville - getting into ECU gamedays might be alright, college towns generally cool
8. Cary - they have one brewery I liked, the rest is suburban death - close to three other cities
9. Greensboro - downtown lame, best "spots" all located in shopping centers
10. Concord - NASCAR is a thing and nearby Charlotte is #5
11. High Point - furniture!
12. Fayetteville - if you like golf its sort of near but you'll probably get murdered