Donkey Deac Doug
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The hard F is a weird one for me, and I tend to relate to the South Park episode the most on it. When I used to use that word, I was referring to an absolute douchebag, such as someone who would loudly ride their Harley through an area of outside neighborhood bars/restaurants. Had nothing to do with homosexuality in the least. But obviously many people did/do use it as a gay slur, so it needed to die off.
My experience with hard F is almost exclusively by my gay friends who use it to describe gay people who are overselling the gay stereotype. I was in a gay wedding a few years ago and one of the grooms made a point to explain that "no faggots were invited." I was really confused, but during the reception he broke it down for me.
I love him and he's one of my best friends. But it's super weird to have a dude who you 100% know has sucked a mile of dick call someone a hard F in an unendearing way.
Maybe BBD or RSF can tell me if the mood on Grindr has changed in the last few years.
I don't use the hard F for a lot of the same reasons that I don't use the N-bomb. It's just not my word and there's history there that's stood the test of time.