My pastor never meets with a woman without his wife. Not a church rule. He just knows he doesn't want to be tempted or even give any grounds for someone to believe there is impropriety.
It's going to be fantastic to compare WakeandBake's posts now to in a few months when he's holding his own little bundle of joy in his arms.
Of course not. The large majority of adults would never hurt a child. I just know that it is incredibly difficult to distinguish them from those that would. Most people (including childcare professionals) overestimate their ability to spot a child predator.
That's why organizations charged with looking after children almost universally follow a rule of 3. Breaking that rule is an immediate red flag and is going to draw extra scrutiny. 99 times out of 100 it's totally innocent but by having and following that rule you are much more able to prevent or quickly respond to that 1 time in 100.
Between 1970 (when detailed figures became available) and 2009 every category of child victimization has declined: child sexual abuse down 53 percent; physical abuse down 52 percent; aggravated assault down 69 percent; robbery down 62 percent; larceny down 54 percent. Bullying has dropped by a third in the last five years. And despite the horrors and headlines of stranger abduction—this year it’s the Cleveland kidnappings; a few years ago it was Jaycee Lee Dugard—confirmed cases are so rare (perhaps 100 or so a year) that the odds of your child being kidnapped and murdered stand at about 1.5 million to one.
All sides have lawyers.
It's safer today than in recent decades.
http://www.psmag.com/culture/the-kids-really-are-all-right-58651/
The modern sensationalist 24 hour news cycle makes our country seem much more dangerous than it really is, and it's complete lack of attention for international news leaves us ignorant. Local news is repetitive to the point of beng worthless and national cable news is ratings driven xenohobic garbage.It's safer today than in recent decades.
http://www.psmag.com/culture/the-kids-really-are-all-right-58651/
tht's fucking weird
tht's fucking weird
Billy Graham's staff would enter and check his hotel room before he entered. Several times they would find naked women and photographers in there. If you are a politician or clergy, there are some people out to get you. Why risk your reputation/marriage/freedom/job effectiveness with a "he said/she said" case?
Another example that happened in my neighborhood. A 14 yo girl was with her family at the pool. She walked by and talked to a male neighbor sitting by the pool. She went to her parents and said "he asked me to have sex with him!" Parents called the cops. He denied it. No one overheard what was said. The neighborhood was split on who they believed. Huge tension in the neighborhood, and drama in his family life. As a "he said/she said" case, it didn't go to court; but the guy's family eventually moved, as did others who couldn't take the neighborhood strife. Either he did it, or one crazy attention seeking girl almost ruined his life.
better stay locked up in your house and never have a conversation with a child! why risk it??
I would rather be naive than in a constant state of paranoid awareness and insistence that she and I not be alone together without supervision. sheesh
It's not that I'm in a constant state of paranoia, but more like I know there are some good safeguards in place to prevent someone with evil intent from acting on it, or to prevent the case of he said/she said, and I have those rules in mind. Lots of jobs have workplace safety rules, this is just one of those.