But is private health insurance (even before Obamacare cratered it) materially better in that particular area? I think it is just a shitty situation to be in no matter what insurance you have. I think care from family members in a dementia setting is going to dictate "success" more than any type of insurance can provide. It is not a situation where increased money = increased acute care = better results. It sucks no matter how much money is involved.
There is a market for long therm care insurance. Its pricey but can be a huge relief to families dealing with this. I don't work in the LTC space but have spent time reviewing iit and its worth a look, especially as you get older.