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Were you sober when you got married?

meh

  • sober as a judge

    Votes: 48 55.8%

  • buzzed--booze

    Votes: 17 19.8%

  • drunk

    Votes: 2 2.3%

  • booze and the drugs

    Votes: 3 3.5%

  • just the drugs

    Votes: 2 2.3%

  • i am a dwarf: forever alone

    Votes: 7 8.1%

  • other

    Votes: 7 8.1%
  • Total voters
    86
  • Poll closed .
I wasn't drunk during the ceremony but got a little more drunk than I planned the night before. Woke up the morning of with no voice and a teeeeensy hangover.
 
My groomsmen, dad, and minister were passing around a fifth of Four Roses Small Batch in the waiting area before the ceremony.
 
i have every intention of drinking mimosas all day while they're doing my hair and makeup and everything. i'm super uncomfortable in front of a camera, so alcohol is the only thing that will make me relax in all of those pictures before/during the ceremony.
 
I won't be drunk, but I won't blow a .00
 
My father-in-law would've beaten the shit out of me if I were drunk at the wedding.

However, the reception was open game.
 
silk said:
Minister made it clear that drunk=no wedding.
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Good for him/her. [priest rant] If we've got people entering into the Sacrament of Marriage either drunk or hungover, what does that say about how they view the Sacramental and covenantal relationship which they are entering? Given that the number of people who in actuality enter marriage sober (both BAC and taking seriously the nature of their vows), it's not surprising we have a divorce rate that hovers near 50% and an infidelity rate that is harder to pin down, but certainly higher. [/priest rant]
 
People go to church hungover all the time. You know why? Because it's on SUNDAY MORNING which comes right after SATURDAY NIGHT!
 
I'm surprised more people weren't buzzed at their wedding....I understand not being drunk, but I thought buzzed was common practice?
 
RevDeac06 said:
Good for him/her. [priest rant] If we've got people entering into the Sacrament of Marriage either drunk or hungover, what does that say about how they view the Sacramental and covenantal relationship which they are entering? Given that the number of people who in actuality enter marriage sober (both BAC and taking seriously the nature of their vows), it's not surprising we have a divorce rate that hovers near 50% and an infidelity rate that is harder to pin down, but certainly higher. [/priest rant]
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Yeah I'm sure actually being hungover/drunk for the ceremony is the problem causing people to make a poor decision into marriage and nothing could've been done the prior year or two during the engagement period.
 
JDawg said:
Yeah I'm sure actually being hungover/drunk for the ceremony is the problem causing people to make a poor decision into marriage and nothing could've been done the prior year or two during the engagement period.
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It's not about that, it's about the attitude with which you enter the relationship. I'd guess that less than 10% of people getting married get the idea that if you're getting married in a (liturgical) church, that you're entering a covenantal relationship (most couldn't even define what that means) and a Sacramental relationship (likewise, they don't know what this is).

The fact of the matter is that, as a priest, I might get a check for $250 for doing a wedding (which on my end, means meeting with the couple for 4 hour long counseling sessions, each of which has at least 30 minutes of prep time, running the rehearsal, and officiating at the wedding (which also includes preparing a short homily). Meanwhile, the florist, baker, caterer, photographer, etc all get paid thousands and actually have no impact on their actual marriage/relationship.

It's not just frustration at not getting paid more (which I'm not wanting), but rather a sign of what people value. And if you're entering the marriage with the attitude "whatever, covenant of marriage, psssh, I'm gonna get wasted then laid every day on the honeymoon, who cares," then it's not surprising we have such systemic problems in the institution of marriage.
 
Nowadays I would say more people would think the engagement is more symbolic of that stuff than the marriage itself. The marriage ceremony for most of my friends just seems to be a formality, they've already been together for years and living together etc.
 
I was pretty drunk the night before. I had two orange crushes (vodka + orange juice), three beers, one glass of red wine, one shot...then one eternal flame margarita, two beers and a lemon drop shot at Tate's.

The groomsman's brunch was set for 9am the next morning and I was struggling. A few of my groomsmen puked, but thankfully I held it together. I showed up without shoes. MY FIL told me he "probably wouldn't be able to make it", and that morning when I saw him walk in the door, my heart sunk. After brunch I was good-to-go after drinking ~20oz of water, taking a 30min shower and chugging a red bull. I only had two beers, two shots (from a liquor luge) and a few sips from a bourbon cocktail at the reception.
 
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JDawg said:
Nowadays I would say more people would think the engagement is more symbolic of that stuff than the marriage itself. The marriage ceremony for most of my friends just seems to be a formality, they've already been together for years and living together etc.
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This has been my experience.
 
freakadeac said:
I was pretty drunk the night before. I had two orange crushes (vodka + orange juice), three beers, one glass of red wine, one shot...then one eternal flame margarita, two beers and a lemon drop shot at Tate's.

The groomsman's brunch was set for 9am the next morning and I was struggling. I showed up without shoes. A few of my groomsmen puked, but thankfully I held it together. After brunch I was good-to-go after drinking ~20oz of water, taking a 30min shower and chugging a red bull. I only had two beers, two shots (from a liquor luge) and a few sips from a bourbon cocktail at the ceremony.
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orange crush? oh you mean a screwdriver?
 
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