Men who have cheated

[jhmd2000]

I'd try to link you to an appropriate website for this problem, but Moveon.org is already taken.

The key in anything you do in life (relationships included) is making sure you follow your own moral compass, and then periodically calibrating that compass. It take a while to realize that some accidents are completely the other driver's fault and the best revenge is moving on gracefully.

"Man in the Glass."

When you get what you want in your struggle for self
And the world makes you king for a day
Just go to the mirror and look at yourself
And see what that man has to say.

For it isn’t your father, or mother, or wife
Whose judgment upon you must pass
The fellow whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the one staring back from the glass.

He’s the fellow to please – never mind all the rest
For he’s with you, clear to the end
And you’ve passed your most difficult, dangerous test
If the man in the glass is your friend.

You may fool the whole world down the pathway of years
And get pats on the back as you pass
But your final reward will be heartache and tears
If you’ve cheated the man in the glass.

 

[AnonymousDeac]

@JHMD

Weird reference. My old boss sent out a Season's Greetings and included that Wimbrow poem.

 

[jhmd2000]

@JHMD

Weird reference. My old boss sent out a Season's Greetings and included that Wimbrow poem.

I think it is perfectly appropriate for the case. Anybody that cheats is only hurting themselves in the long run. It's up to the cheated-upon person to enforce that consequence by voting with their feet.

 

[ImTheCaptain]

I think it is perfectly appropriate for the case. Anybody that cheats is only hurting themselves in the long run. It's up to the cheated-upon person to enforce that consequence by voting with their feet.

what about people who cheat on a lame ex with the person they end up marrying

 

[ChicdeaC]

what about people who cheat on a lame ex with the person they end up marrying

or 2 lame exes with the person they marry?

 

[jhmd2000]

what about people who cheat on a lame ex with the person they end up marrying

They get to run for President.

 

[bojanglefunk]

They get to run for President.

I basically "emotionally" cheated in this way. Nothing physical though, and the opportunity was definitely there. My wife has told me multiple times that she knew I had the opportunity and wouldn't have stopped me but that she thinks me not taking that opportunity is a huge reason things worked out for us long term. In other words, she was single, didn't know my ex etc so she wouldn't have cared about hurting anyone, but the fact that I knew there was a moral process and ending the relationship first was important got me major points.

 

[PhDeac]

or 2 lame exes with the person they marry?

"I can't quit you, Matt!"

 

[AnonymousDeac]

what about people who cheat on a lame ex with the person they end up marrying

Why not just break up with the other person first. Future spouse should be able to understand.

 

[HeavyPetter]

or 2 lame exes with the person they marry?

A lame ex three-way. Nice.

 

[PhDeac]

Why not just break up with the other person first. Future spouse should be able to understand.

"Hello, REMAX. I'd like to buy a new house. But first I want to sell my current house. Once that a done deal, then I'll start looking for a new house."

Somebody need to be in relationships. If that means cheating first so they avoid being single, so be it.

 

[wfudkn]

This popped up on my iPod this morning so I felt it was appropriate to post

 

[DeacHoops]

"Hello, REMAX. I'd like to buy a new house. But first I want to sell my current house. Once that a done deal, then I'll start looking for a new house."

Somebody need to be in relationships. If that means cheating first so they avoid being single, so be it.

wow.

 

[ImTheCaptain]

people are getting really self-righteous about cheating around here

 

[HeavyPetter]

"Hello, REMAX. I'd like to buy a new house. But first I want to sell my current house. Once that a done deal, then I'll start looking for a new house."

Somebody need to be in relationships. If that means cheating first so they avoid being single, so be it.

That kind of defies logic and the way it would probably go down.

 

[RicoSuave]

"Hello, REMAX. I'd like to buy a new house. But first I want to sell my current house. Once that a done deal, then I'll start looking for a new house."

Somebody need to be in relationships. If that means cheating first so they avoid being single, so be it.

I think what PH is saying that some people need people and feel lost without a significant other. For those people, cheating is their way of moving up / moving on rather than doing the emotionally honest thing and breaking up with #1 before moving on to #2.

 

[DeacHoops]

I think what PH is saying that some people need people and feel lost without a significant other. For those people, cheating is their way of moving up / moving on rather than doing the emotionally honest thing and breaking up with #1 before moving on to #2.

i understand that that's what he's saying. i just think that shows an incredible lack of respect and understanding of the ramifications of one's actions.

 

[ImTheCaptain]

what if a woman cheated on an abusive husband?

 

[cookoutdeac]

 

[JDawg]

what if a woman cheated on an abusive husband?

well she's dumb because then all further beatings aren't considered abuse :noidea:

(commence massive amounts of negrep because people don't think I'm 100% not serious)