He uses "we" twelve times in those quotes. How is he supposed to talk about what happened on the floor, in the game, with any negativity at all if saying "we" doesn't cut it? "We were soft" is throwing the players under the bus?
This must be that new "nobody is ever wrong, nobody has any responsibility, everyone gets a trophy" thing. Sometimes coaches screw up. Sometimes they don't prepare their players well. Sometimes players don't put in the effort they did just a few short days before. You could pull plenty of quotes where [Redacted] assumes responsibility, takes blame, says the buck stops with him.
Truth is our players are short on talent. If we're going to compete they have to play hard every play, every minute, run the offense like they did against Yale and VaTech, stay focused and make good decisions. If he's hurting their feelings by calling a spade a spade after the pathetic effort in the NC State game they're in the wrong business.