We finally found a kindergarten for the girl. We entered her in three different lotteries, lost all three. We toured three other elementary schools and finally found one that we absolutely loved. As part of the admission process, the girl had to spent half a day in their pre-k class. When we got there, the principal was outside greeting all the kids by name as they walked in and greeted our daughter by name without a prompt from us. As we walked in the door, there was a big dry erase board that said "Welcome to xxx Girl" which made her really happy. When we picked her up, she was super excited and they gave her a bear with a shirt from the school on it.
The only downside is it's a private school and I feel like a tool for sending her there. But she loved it and I think it is a really good fit for her. Also, I don't get the vibe from that place that it's full of snotty rich people.