ChicdeaC
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A doula is there to support you as the partner as well. We are trained extensively on birth, pain management, massage, lactation, etc. sometimes it's nice to know there's someone in the room who can help you with what to do for your wife and assure you that things are going well and you are doing a good job. It's hard to see your partner go through labor and having support from a professional (who wants you to have your ideal birth experience) can go a long way.The wife did a perfect job with just a doctor, nurse, and myself. A doula seems like a huge waste of cash unless you are a lazy partner. We looked up classes to take on our own. We both took the Birthing and Breastfeeding courses at the women's hospital. She took an additional CPR class and I went to Daddy Boot Camp.
I can spout a lot of stats as to why a doula is beneficial to the laboring woman, especially one who doesn't want to use drugs, but one of the best parts for me was that Matt could go to the bathroom or call our parents and I was never alone for a second of labor. That and we were able to employ lots of pain management techniques that one person alone couldn't have done.
It may not have been necessary for you, and I am clearly biased but I think every birth deserves a doula and that a good doula is worth every penny. And Matt was far far far from a lazy partner.