It is not about the employer being judge and jury, it is about the duty of the employee to report the allegations to the University. Under Title IX, Urban was required to report the abuse to Ohio State. Title IX states that "A college or university that receives Federal funding may be held legally responsible when it knows about and ignores sexual harassment or assault in its program or activities." Coach Smith was part of the program at the time of the 2015 assault. There is also the issue of Ohio State's own sexual misconduct policy. Meyer's contract states that "he must promptly report to Ohio State's Title IX Coordinator for Athletics, any known violations of Ohio State's Sexual misconduct policy....that involve any student, faculty or staff."
Shelly Meyer is also a Ohio State employee, so she had a duty to report the abuse under Title IX.
Anyone who thinks that a wife would keep this information from her husband, when it concerns a member of the husband's staff is lying to themselves. Urban knew about the allegations in 2015, and never reported them, and lied to the media (which isn't illegal, just a bad look). If he gets canned, the school can fire him with cause because of the Title IX violation.
The really sickening thing is the amount of people attacking this woman now. After years in an abusive relationship, she is able to get herself out, and is being attacked, because of Football. I even saw someone accuse her of doing this for the money. WHAT MONEY?