And if talk of charitable giving bores you, heres the juicy part: this particular social worker is smoking hot. Shes in her mid-30s, tall, thin, and has strikingly beautiful facial features although now she tends to wear straight hair, little-to-no makeup, and practical clothes and shoes. Shes married with 2 young kids. And shes hot. She was high school friends with many of my friends, and in college her mom passed away, resulting in a years-long battle with alcohol and substance abuse through college. (She has not told me this herself, but her lifelong friends have shared this with me). At one point she took a break from college to work on a commercial fishing ship. She was a favorite groupie of the Dave Matthews Band, touring with them for awhile and apparently got passed around the band members although she never told anybody whether she actually had sexual intercourse with Dave or not. But now, shes a respected mother and social worker, and nothing in her personality indicates that she'd ever had substance abuse problems. Ten years ago, I would look at her and think about how sexy she was. Today, I look at her and think that shes a very attractive woman in a respectable dignified manner, which should be every woman's goal when they begin raising a family.