RacerDeac
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I'd be interested in seeing some numbers on divorces with couples who had sex before marriage and couples who didn't. I can't imagine committing the rest of my life to someone when I'm in the dark on our sexual chemistry.
Every long-time married couple I've ever heard discuss this, whether they had sex before marriage or not, has said the sexual chemistry/passion you have early on in a relationship is vastly different from the sexual chemistry later on. I'm not saying it's not a factor to consider, but I'm not sure it's high up the list of things that matter when committing the rest of your life to someone. The sexual chemistry 5-10 years down the road will be developed and built and is unlikely to be the same as the horny romps of your initial year or 3.
I'd even hazard a guess that the numbers may favor those that don't have sex before marriage. You could argue that it's religion, guilt, etc that keeps them together and be right in many cases I'm sure, but I think there's a valid argument that sexual passion of he early years of a relationship can cover for a lot of issues that start to cause problems when you are actually doing life together rather than just going on dates and getting naked.