Aren't clubs up where you are also stupid expensive? Like put a kid through college type expensive?
I moved from Winston to GSO about 1.5 years ago and miss the vibe from Maple Chase. I joined Cardinal out here and hated it. Couldn't find a decent game unless I wanted to play with the high stakes guys who would rotate over from Sedgefield a couple times a week. I don't mind the competition but when you're up against a 2 time USGA champion, or guys who are on the KFT it's going to get costly no matter how many shots you are getting. And anyone who has spent time as a plus handicap knows you aren't begging for shots off other plus handicaps. It's undignified lol.
This comment reminded me of one of my favorite golf quotes. Back when I was playing the the Golf Channel Am Tour there was this one dude who'd constantly talk about shooting under par. "Oh yeah that course I shot 66 from the tips, oh right I remember that other course I had 3 doubles but still hung on for 67" etc. But of course, come tournament time he generally lost and shot mid 70's. He wasn't awful by any means, but he was your typical "scratch" weekend warrior. Like me, essentially.
So at the end of the season a few years ago he finishes 2nd in our finals (we tied, actually). Our group of champ flight guys are grabbing drinks after - he says "well, I'm just warn out so I wasn't myself out there today because I've been preparing so hard to turn professional." We thought he was kidding but sure enough he "went pro" and started entering Canadian Tour qualifiers, Web.com Monday qualifiers (pre-Korn Ferry), even a PGA Monday qual. Like 2 months in he's hunting for "big money games" and gets the invite to a club here - the 3 guys he gets grouped with are like two +2's and a +3. This guy is technically listed as a +1 and asks on the first tee how many strokes he's getting from each. They're all looking at each other in silence, nobody answers him, he asks again. Nobody says a word, just exchanging funny looks like he's speaking Chinese. Clearly getting frustrated he asks what's going on. One of the guys finally looks at him and says, "There's no strokes on tour, bro." Then they beat him like a drum. So whenever someone is stroke-grubbing, particularly if they think they're good - multiple guys will shame them with a "no strokes on tour bro" to great effect.
And yeah, clubs here are nuts. Closest one to me now has an 8 year wait list, then 2 years as a new member (play once a week, only tues-thurs), and initiation is $115k. The mediocre club towards Vienna went from 1 year wait/$30k initiation to 5 years/$80k since COVID hit. Club Corp bought a bunch of the middle-tier clubs so they're essentially semi-private now, which made the true private clubs even higher in demand. The one saving grace is that there are a bunch of legitimately outstanding daily-fee courses nearby, but it's just a constant battle for tee times. I mostly play weekdays or lean on friends who have paid a little cash to some of the better public courses for early-access tee times. There are some affordable clubs much further out but I'm not going to join a course 45 minutes away from me unless it's RTJ.