bojanglefunk
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I read that as 2nd marriages.
Ah. My bad. I think those should count then, I read it as when people get new stones etc. as a gift when they get older.
I read that as 2nd marriages.
It should only count as first-time because the others aren't really engagement rings, but are new rings to replace the engagement ring.
Ah. My bad. I think those should count then, I read it as when people get new stones etc. as a gift when they get older.
My bad. Would think more people remarry than upgrade, but I really have no idea. In each case, they are probably buying a nicer ring the second go around.
I would think a lot of people who were upgrading would go in as a couple. Or if it is a surprise for an anniversary, etc. any store is going to know if it's engagement or upgrading after the guy speaks 1 or 2 sentences. Whether or not the store cares enough to note that is another story.
i get upset when people tell me it's "my" day. no, no it's not. first of all, if you're going to say something along those lines, at least say that it's "our" day. it is not about ME. it is about US. but even then, i don't really think it's just "our" day. it's our day TO CELEBRATE WITH THOSE WHO MATTER TO US. i believe it IS largely about the guests. if it wasn't about the guests, then i feel like elopement would be a better option.
2nd this. If your own wedding wasn't totally awesome, you made a grave mistake somewhere
My friends are getting married in droves. I wouldn't say it bothers me, I'm happy if they're happy, but I've always seen it as a really bizarre and fucked up institution. There's a lot of arcane symbolism behind a father walking down the aisle and delivering his daughter to the groom. The taking of the female surname is so weird, though I know it's less than ubiquitous nowadays. All of it reeks of a sort of gender slavery, yet in my experience, it seems to be women who want so badly to get married in the first place.
I won't even get into the yonic symbolism of the rings, the evolution of the dowry and other financial matters, the hypocrisy of the "sanctity" debate, or any number of other things.
I'll bottom line it so as to actually (potentially) foster discussion. Does anybody else share my concerns, or is this one of those customs/traditions that has stood the test of time because it's good, keeps families together, etc?
Looking for both male and female perspective here. Some of the most staunch feminists I know still want that certificate and what not, so I'm interested to hear perspectives (and expect the tags to be ruthless).
Per this time of year, are there wives out there who still try to make Valentine's Day a thing? I keep seeing commercials of doofy guys buying their wives overpriced jewelry from Jared and hiding it in the fridge or some shit. Meanwhile, I don't think I could point to a single woman in my circle of married friends who thinks Valentine's is legit (my wife included, thank jebus), at least not publicly.
My parents have both been divorced multiple times. Aunt has been divorced, brother has been divorced (I wouldn't be surprised if he was on his second in a year or so), sister's only a year + in, so I have hope for her.
But yeah, I haven't had great examples.
Per this time of year, are there wives out there who still try to make Valentine's Day a thing? I keep seeing commercials of doofy guys buying their wives overpriced jewelry from Jared and hiding it in the fridge or some shit. Meanwhile, I don't think I could point to a single woman in my circle of married friends who thinks Valentine's is legit (my wife included, thank jebus), at least not publicly.
my grandparents just celebrated their 59th anniversary (when mom asked what they were doing, my grandma said "oh honey, it's not a big one... we'll do something grand next year." i love my grandma so much.), she and granddaddy are 84. my parents are coming up on their 32nd.
i want that.