No, not fan think at all. And you can have an outcome that benefits both the school and the student. College football, although quickly becoming player-centric, and contrary to popular belief, should NOT be all about the player. I have 3 kids, whom I love and would do anything for. however, they are taught, that the world does not revolve around them. they need to learn to contribute, to work hard, to keep their word, and to be honest. they are also taught to put others needs ahead of their own when possible.
your posed question #1, assumes that the right stance, has to be "the best interest of the recruit." I disagree, I say what is in the interest of everyone involved. . . ? IMO, this is becoming lost on many college basketball and football recruits today, but its probably the everyone's fault, because its what has been accepted as ok.
I am all for a kid wanting the best for himself, he should. but when you are holding out hope for an offer, and it doesn't come, and then you "commit" to another school, it should mean something; to the athlete, to the school, to the coaches, and to the future teammates, etc. If not, change the word, because committed is being used correctly.
to my earlier point, i am not complaining because a rule was broken, I am disappointed that this conduct is the norm. my reflection on society perhaps. still hopeful that he comes back, but not holding my breath.