ChicdeaC
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And Chic,
I don't think anyone is saying technically you 'aren't feeling it', I'm just saying that there will be times, like I said above, when the lust/desire/love is not going to be the forefront of your thoughts when around your husband. Again, doesn't mean those feelings aren't there, it just means that some typical stresses are getting in the way, and I'm sure we have all had days when we don't feel like talking/interacting with anyone and just want to be left alone. If you haven't had it yet, you absolutely will, but it doesn't need to be a negative. And, at the end of the day, anyone who has ever asked me about Marriage advice (and I am no expert), I tell them to make sure, at the end of the day, you are with someone you simply get along with. So when the times are tough, you can at least have a meal together, even when you aren't in the mood to rip each others clothes off... : )
I guess it's just difficult for me to imagine either of us wanting to give up or need to be pulled through, and maybe I will go through that, but I think it's possible we won't. I wasn't reading it in terms of solely being about ripping each other's clothes off or lust being at the forefront, I absolutely can understand life getting in the way of that but I don't see that every marriage (or even a great majority of marriages comes to a point when you want out and need to push through because of your vows, maybe it's a hindsight is 20/20 thing?